Happy Valentine’s Day folks. Whether you’re in a relationship, situationship, dating, or happily single, I hope today you celebrate love. Not necessarily love in the romantic sense either. Look, I’m a big supporter of people using this day to celebrate not only the love they have for their beaus, but also the love they have for friends, family, and others near and dear. I also believe that people should use today to reflect on the love and admiration they have for themselves. Self-love is so important; and yet, many people have the hardest time with the concept.
Behind all the smoke and mirrors of Instagram and Snapchat pages, clothing labels, and fully loaded vehicles, many people don’t really have an appreciation and love for the person they are. If they were to stop and stare in a mirror, away from people and cell phones, they would see someone “ugly” not worthy of receiving love. It truly is disheartening to know that there are countless folks in the world that are so focused on their flawed nature that they can’t see the beauty that is them. Even worse, are those individuals unable to enjoy who they are without comparing themselves to others. As if they can only shine when pitted against another human being.
By the way, there are both folks in relationships and single who are unfamiliar with self-love. Which is odd if you think about it. If you don’t love yourself, how can you possibly determine your worth in a relationship? How do you know what you deserve out of romance and from a partner? It would seem to me that those staying in relationships with mates that constantly disrespect them do so because they don’t truly love themselves. Just a thought.
Now before I go too far off on a tangent, let me get back to the point I’m attempting to make. I want to encourage all of those who may read this, to grow to love yourself on Valentine’s Day and beyond. To show yourself some appreciation for you being you. You can start, by looking into the mirror and paying yourself some compliments. For example, tell yourself “You are an amazing human being, deserving of love and happiness.” Or you simply tell yourself “I love you.” I know some of you are probably rolling your eyes, and doubtful how self-complimenting will work or benefit you. However, it honestly doesn’t hurt one bit to remind yourself every now again that you are somebody, and that’s a big deal.
Heck on this Valentine’s Day, if you have self-love, reward yourself with a little something something. You deserve if you are able to have a healthy appreciation for who you are and the man/woman you’re becoming. It doesn’t have to be flowers, candy, jewelry, or anything extravagant. It could be something as simple as getting a slice of cheesecake from your favorite bakery (even though I know we are all working on our summer bodies LOL).
Oh and on one last note, let me leave you with a nugget of wisdom, and possible tweet. There is no other person on this planet that is more qualified to be you than you, and you have a lot to offer. Remember that the next time you’re feeling low.