In this day and age when people broadcast their life on a daily basis across Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat, I find more folks living their lives through a green lens. I mean people are in a constant state of envy because the stories and pictures they come across showing ripped bodies, great jobs, picturesque relationships, and overall “fabulous” lives. And before you convince yourself that you’ve never been the envious type, think about those times you came across a profile and said, “Oh he got a few muscles now and thinks he’s the sexiest thing out here.” Or maybe you’ve been one to ask “How is he in a relationship, and I’m not?” Or perhaps you’ve thought on occasion, “How is it that I’m working my ass off, barely making it and stressed, and he’s over there happy and balling out of control?” It’s easy for anyone to be a little green from time to time. However, no one should go through life always jealous of others.
In “this thing called life” (rest in peace Prince), you don’t ever have to be jealous of anyone. While competition is one of those things drive us as a society, we often compete in the wrong way and with the wrong people. Our goal in life should always be to be the best version of us possible, not to be the best imitation of someone else. If you think of life in this perspective, then you’ll come to understand that no one walking this planet can out do you in being you. Nor can you out do “Jim, James, Paul, or Tyrone” in being them. It’ impossible. So envying what someone else is doing and what he has going on, is a waste of time and an added stress.
Look, if you want a better body, then put down the pizza and Pattie Pies, and hit the gym. Heck find a personal trainer. There are plenty to choose from these days. I can’t promise you that you’ll have a stomach like Tyson Beckford, a chest like the Michael B. Jordan, or arms like the Dwayne “the Rock” Johnson; but, I can promise you that you have the potential to transform your body into the best shape of your life.
As far as you’re love life goes, there is no need to be upset because someone else has a boo and you don’t. You’re time just hasn’t come yet. Perhaps, you have some more maturing to do before you entangle yourself with another person. It’s pretty common as humans to want something we aren’t prepared to handle yet. Some can’t handle all that a happy relationship requires. And perhaps, you’ve merely been overlooking your Prince Charming or just need a dose of patience. One thing I’ve learned about love, is it happens when it’s supposed to, and organically. So keep improving you, so you can be ready when that unexpected special someone comes along. By the way, you may be jealous of a relationship that is only popping on Instagram and not in real life. Just saying.
And if you don’t fill fulfilled in your job or career, it’s time to do some prayer and reflection. Ask God for insight on what your purpose in life is. Think about what gets you excited, what you’re good at, and how you can flip your passions into profits. It’s never too late to pursue you’re calling. Remember that!
So just to recap, stop hating on others. The real competition in life is about constantly pushing yourself to be better and go further. Which means, you don’t need to be salty about anyone else’s accomplishments. Now think on that this Monday morning.
FYI: For more insight on how to live out your life calling, you may want to pick up a copy of T.D. Jakes’ Instinct.