I know there are more important things on the horizon like the upcoming presidential election in a few weeks, but I’d like to point out that cuffing season is also quickly approaching. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, allow me to explain. For all intent and purposes, the infamous cuffing season is like hibernation season for bears (real ones LOL). When the cold weather hits, bears like to find them a cozy and intimate place, away from other aspects of nature. Similarly during cuffing season, humans don’t like going to clubs and bars like they used to in the spring and summer, because of the winter air and its elements. While humans like to be in a cozy and intimate place, they tend to want to be there with a warm body next to them, as in a boo. A bae. A honey. A boyfriend. And I’m all here for people participating in cuffing season, but I just think there are rules to this.
- Don’t Settle
Look, I get that the idea of having a man that you can call your own is appealing, but no need to settle. Especially since NO ONE ever has to settle. If you find yourself with someone that you barely share anything in common with, aren’t attracted to most of the time, and that spends more time on your last nerve then your good side, then drop the guy. He is not the winter companion for you, and you shouldn’t force the issue.
- Don’t Accelerate a Relationship
This is really advice that should be applied outside of cuffing season as well. A mentor of mine once told me that my generation is a microwave generation. We want everything when we want it, and don’t like to wait for it. I was slightly offended at the time by him calling my generation “entitled” in so many words, but recently I’ve come to accept his point. I see people around my age and younger jump in and out of so called serious relationships at warps speeds. Instead of allowing a relationship to progress naturally, they do whatever they can to accelerate themselves on the path of moving in with each other, and even matrimony. The point here is to slow down. Given winter is roughly three months, you shouldn’t be trying to live with anyone you met at the beginning of the cuffing season.
- Don’t Mislead Your Boo
If you already know that you aren’t ready to be tied down long-term, then don’t give that impression to your suitors. You give undeserving false hope to people when you tell them you see a future with them, when really you see a place holder until the springtime hits. As soon as it warms up again, you plan on getting out the house and seeing what’s on the dating market. So just be upfront with your intentions. Nothing wrong with a little dose of truth.
- Try Not to Fall Victim to Relationship Weight
Again, this is one of those rules that should be applied beyond cuffing season. From experience, I can attest to the fact relationship weight is a real thing. One day you start dating a guy and you’re able to fit in your favorite pair of pants. Then you look up in a couple months, and your favorite pants won’t button. And if they do button, you’re unable to fit even a penny in your pocket. Just be careful folks.
- If the Relationship Becomes a Real Thing, Don’t Discard it Because Cuffing Season is Over
Even if cuffing season led you and your boo to be a couple, don’t throw the relationship away when the season ends if you two really have something. People spend their lives trying to find true love, and if you happen to find that, don’t throw it away for the sake of it. You’ll be doing yourself and your partner a disservice.
*This may have nothing to do with cuffing season, but people be sure to VOTE! And I’m guilty of bias, so be sure to vote for the right candidate. She needs your support.