Hopefully I have a simple question for you. The holidays are coming up, and I’m at a lost as to what to get for my girlfriend. We’ve only been dating for about 4 months, so I’m not sure if I should get her like a Coach purse or Michael Kors watch or something. I don’t want to buy anything too over the top, but I don’t want to fall flat on my face either. Suggestions would be appreciated.
Dear Lady Marmalade,
Thanks for writing to me. Love that song by the way. Now, I understand it may be a tad nerve-racking trying to find the perfect Christmas gift for your boo. I assume it will be your first occasion to shower her with a gift, so you want to make sure it’s special. However at four months, you don’t want to get anything too elaborate. You don’t want to possibly outshine the recipient’s gift to you, and you don’t want to establish a precedent where you constantly have to outdo yourself. I get it.
If you are financially able to purchase a Coach bag or Michael Kors, then I think that would be a nice gift, provided that is something your girlfriend is into and all. Don’t go broke trying to make a grand impression on her. Especially, if she is not even into “label swag,” or doesn’t carry a purse or wear watches.
Also keep in mind that 4 months isn’t necessarily a long time in terms of coupledom. I’m not knocking your relationship by any means, and hopefully you two make it. But what happens if you don’t? Will you be upset if you don’t get your “love investments” back? Plus, will you feel some type of way if you buy her something that cost more than present you receive from her in return? Honestly, think about it. The answers will be quite useful in assessing what to get her.
Suggestions going forward.
- Since this will be your first Christmas as a couple, I recommend you two talk to each other about gift giving. Talk about a price point that you don’t want to exceed. And to make it more romantic, establish a date night in which you two plan to exchange presents. Oh, and depending on the date plans and whether you both have a good time, you may be establishing a Christmas tradition for the future.
- If you love this girl or are falling in love with this girl, I think you know deep down what she would like for Christmas. Listen to your instincts.
- Again, I want to emphasize that I most certainly wish you the best in your relationship.
As always nothing but love,